Defining Our Healthy Identity

By | 23 June 2017

We’re Iranian. What does it imply?  We dwell all over the world, receive citizenship in western international locations, and determine ourselves with Western cultures.

What does it imply?

When our kids ask: who’re we, the place will we belong, what’s my true nationality, we normally have a silent sigh earlier than we reply this difficult query. Identification for folks is what tradition is for the sum of who we’re. We have now to determine ourselves with locations, folks, atmosphere, and objects as a way to discover which means for our lives. We Iranian misplaced our identification a few years in the past, nevertheless we’re survivors and nonetheless we attempt to make sense of the items of our identification.

If we might put an commercial within the wished part of a newspaper we might formulate ourselves as: Wholesome Identification is being sought greater than ever or we purchase wholesome determine for any worth. 

Trauma after trauma hits our true self. One catastrophe after one other threatens our being and our changing into. We have now an unconscious defence mechanism that helps us to outlive; we as a nation have survived all these traumas.

That defence mechanism is our robust identification as being Iranian. Now, relying on our citizenship paperwork, we will add the newly obtained identification to the equation. I’m an Iranian-Canadian-Swedish. How about that?

What do I imply by conversing about this subject? I’m not questioning whether or not we have now an identification or not. I’m inquiring about how our sense of being could possibly be wholesome and the way these wholesome identities seem like.

Nationwide Identification shouldn’t be a noun, it isn’t a verb and it’s positively not an adjective. Identification is a discourse, an idea that pertain our essence, our supply, our roots, and our belonging.  It additionally includes our model of life, our habits, our behaviours, and our coping mechanisms. 

Identification is about our previous, current, and future. If we don’t wish to dig into the previous, how can we give attention to our changing into?  As soon as we had been a child, we had been requested how we wished to be after we develop up.  We’d then title these concepts that had been put into our mouth.  

We by no means might consider saying, I need to be myself, I need to be an Iranian, I need to belong to a bunch of individuals, or I need to really feel completely satisfied about who I’m.

What did we wish to develop into or to be after we had been a child?  What did we need to develop into?  Identification follows our desires to develop into and identification is a part of our changing into.  

We’re who we are actually as a result of we didn’t want for something higher, not that our desires or needs might at all times come true. No. Neither we did have any contemplation about what a wholesome identification might seem like, nor did our mother and father.

We simply wished to develop into docs, engineers, pilots, attorneys, and all these excessive standing positions that our mother and father wished us to be. We weren’t advised to develop into human being who might contribute to our communities and to enhance our conditions. 

We weren’t advised that it’s as much as a neighborhood to boost a toddler and as much as a neighborhood to construct a notion of identification, a wholesome one.  Nevertheless, what occurred to the true self that wished to develop into one thing else?  What occurred to our identification as not solely as Iranian but additionally as a various group of individuals with quite a few non secular identities and cultural background?   

I assume the identification of being homosexual or having varied sexuality preferences, usually are not even near the Iranian model of our identities.  We’re far behind this proclamation of rights, not less than not that I can consider.

If it didn’t occur earlier than, now it’s time. We can’t escape this actuality. The query is now the place do we discover our identification? The place is it? What sample it has? What color would that be? What we acknowledge for positive is that we must always proclaim our identification as who we and what teams we belong to.

What do I imply by proclaiming? I imply definitely to acknowledge our roots and to be pleased with our diversities, to have the ability to discover a widespread floor whereas respecting each other for the varied backgrounds we have now. We’re getting higher; nonetheless we have now a protracted method to go.

We come from varied beliefs, values and practices.  We have now to understand the truth that we’re this wealthy folks with all of the completely different model of life. We can’t afford to censure ourselves greater than we have now executed till now. We must always study to search out our true identities, no matter we wish to be or no matter supply we understand we’re a part of. 

We have to stop extra hurt, prejudice, racial biases and preconceived notion of who we’re, by acknowledging our ethnicity and particular person identification.

We must always do not forget that our experiences are subjective, embodied, and actual for us.  We have now to understand that each single expertise is essential and make a distinction. It must be understood that the complicated state of affairs again dwelling and the mass immigration of our Iranian folks are certainly painful.

In the present day, we Iranian dwell in a extra multicultural world, a motive for us with the ability to combine and soften a lot simpler. The opposite actuality is that at the moment folks transfer simpler than earlier than which is one other issue for us Iranian seek for our dream life wherever we discover it.

Many instances there are insufferable and overwhelming conditions that many women and men from our communities are coping with, all in all, main to varied facets of psychological disturbances.

This mass immigration has its personal darkish sides: Isolation, separation, dependancy, harmful existence, and lack of identification as solely a few of the points we Iranian cope with.  Deep down we’re not completely satisfied about not residing in our dwelling nation. We could also be completely satisfied not having to cope with the thoughtless and inconsistent actuality again dwelling. 

Nonetheless we at all times look again. It appears like that we have now our eyes on our dwelling land each single day. Now that the drums of battle are being performed, we’re scared greater than ever, not less than these of us who care.

Dislocation is a heavy weight on our shoulders, heavier than the wet sky, and heavier than our pains.


Generally we have now to govern our ideas to get again to the idea of right here and now temper.

We Iranian have been persuaded for many years and centuries to be one thing we’re not.  Nevertheless we are likely to have good grasp of our rights within the international locations we dwell in.  Not forgetting that in our own residence nation we have now no rights to say, not less than it isn’t straightforward to say any rights again dwelling.

Sense of neighborhood and social identification are two main ideas that hardly ever exceeding the cohort of members of the family, kinfolk and folks from identical neighborhood.

In our very current years we’re stepping into some social teams, to speak, to breathe, to assume, and to replicate our personal state of affairs. The life in migration signifies that folks have to search out companionship in social events whereas attempting to take care of the contacts with the outdated group of acquaintances.

Psychology is changing into the subject of curiosity for a lot of Iranian men and women on the market on this planet.  Identification and sense of belonging is definitely one of many areas which are mirrored in all our literature, poems, songs, and leisure business.

Identification takes us a good distance in life. We must always have experience and benefit from the views. As soon as our kids know who we’re they’ve a much bigger likelihood to combine and succeed as a human being and as a citizen in all places they’re.

Be aware: utilizing the pronoun we refers to we as Iranian, as human beings, as individuals who determine themselves with Iran. This notion of we is a discourse and it’s a broad space the place many individuals can identification themselves with.

Poran Poregbal Vancouver, B.C. July 11, 2008


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